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Young Mom Not knowing what to do.

Prayer Is All I Can Do started this conversation
Hello All,
This is my first time posting on this site and hearing about it. Let me tell you about me. I am 18 , I have a one year old daughter, were staying with a friend as of last month due to non- supportive mom & abbusive boyfriend. My mom wants me to stay with my child's Father because he has money (HE HITS ME). I've tried and tried I just feel like giving up, but I have a daughter so I'm trying for her. Enough of my sob story, not sure if anyone cares. I am taking college classes online, but I have a deadline on books (Monday, I've been asking for extenions after extensions), My daughter needs diapers & clothes, a daycare, etc. I am embarrassed just posting about this. I cry every night when my daughter is asleep because I wish I could do more for her. We barley have anything. I don't even have a phone :,( , I'm crying as I write this. If some one could help me out with anything just anything It would be a real blessing.
I doubt anyone will help me with this but I have to pay my half of the rent Monday as well and don 't have the money. My half is $450.00 If I don't have it by monday I'll get put out and me nor my child will have nowhere to go.
If someone could find it in there heart , ask god to show you what's right just please help me :( Please!
I don't have transportation so you'd have to come to me. I applied for a debit card so any funds you'd like to contribute i'd be more than happy to give you the card number.

Thank you for reading my post and my god bless you. I'll take advice as well as prayer please.

GOD BLESS YOU
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bookworm2011
You cannot be put out for non-payment of rent for being late on one months rent. I dont know if you have roomates or a landlord threatening you, but you have time on your side. Legally, neither one can just demand you leave due to non-payment. You will have an eviction on your record, however, but it gives you time to save and get another place before the judgement actually appears on your credit. Here is the process for evcition in your state:

Evictions in North Carolina
As in all states, North Carolina does not permit landlords to use "self-help" eviction. That is, a landlord cannot change the locks or otherwise impede the tenant's ability to enter the premises (except in order to maintain or repair the premises), even if the tenant fails to pay the rent.

In order to evict the tenant, the landlord must obtain a court order through a process called "summary ejectment". (N.C. Gen. Stat. §§ 42-26 to 36.2)

The landlord cannot evict a tenant in retaliation for certain protected actions. These protected actions include:
(1) Complaints made to the landlord, his employee, or his agent about conditions or defects in the premises that the landlord is obligated to repair; (2) complaints to a government agency about a landlord's alleged violation of any health or safety laws;
(3) attempts to exercise rights described in the lease in state or federal law; and
(4) attempts to become involved with any tenants' rights groups. If the tenant has undertaken any of these actions in good faith and in the six months before the eviction proceeding, the tenant should bring this to the court's attention. (N.C. Gen. Stat. §§ 42-36.1 to 36.3)


If a landlord wants to evict a tenant who will not leave voluntarily, then he must file a Magistrate’s Summons and Complaint in Summary Ejectment in Small Claims (Magistrate’s) Court. The tenant must be served with the Summons and Complaint by the Sheriff’s Office, either personally or by posting. The Summons will state the date, time, and place for the court hearing. Small Claims Court hearings are informal, but both parties may have an attorney, present evidence, and subpoena witnesses.


The tenant may have defenses to the eviction action depending upon which basis for eviction the landlord sets out in the Complaint. The tenant may also file written counterclaims against the landlord. Examples of such counterclaims include: 1) a rent abatement for the landlord’s failure to make repairs for which he was responsible, after having been properly notified by the tenant; and 2) money damages if the landlord attempted to evict the tenant illegally and damaged him in some way.

Either party has ten days in which to appeal the magistrate’s decision to District Court for a new trial. During this ten-day appeal period, the landlord cannot make the tenant move. If the tenant properly appeals the judgment to District Court and pays the rent when due to the Clerk of Superior Court, then he can retain possession of the premises. The tenant may also be required to pay any undisputed past-due rent to the Clerk of Court, unless he files the appeal as an indigent.

If the eviction is based upon nonpayment of rent and the judgment is entered more than five working days before the day when the next rent payment is due under the lease, then the tenant must also pay the pro-rated rent for that time period to stay execution of the magistrate’s judgment for possession pending trial.

If the tenant does not appeal the magistrate’s judgment within ten days or loses on appeal, then the landlord may evict the tenant by obtaining a Writ of Possession of Real Property issued by the Clerk of Court. The writ directs the Sheriff to physically remove the tenant and his personal property from the premises. The Sheriff, not the landlord, is the only one who can remove the tenant and/or his personal property from the rental premises. The landlord cannot force the tenant to move at any stage of the eviction process.
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bookworm2011
 in response to Tamamom...   I think that before you can claim NO ONE HELPS ON THIS SITE, you should really be able to prove that. There are plenty here who help..YOu may not have received the help you were asking for, but that doesnt mean no one here helps ..furthermore, if people here are only helping with advice or referrals, isn't that enough if they care enough to research and spend their time trying to find resources for you??? You are talking about the majority of people in the same boat as you how are they to possibly help you financially? All anyone can do is advise you with what may have worked for them..no miracle workers here, as you said, Only God is capable of that.
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Tamamom
People please don't even bother to ask anyone for help on this site. They won't help you! I was in a very desperate state a few months ago. I tried to get help,all I got was try this program or get welfare. Do these people know that all takes time? & when your begging for help you need it NOW not in 30 to 45 days! Anyway GOD & JESUS helped! Trust me if you put your faith in GOD he will help you. I was so down & out. I didn't have money to buy a gallon of water! ( I don't & won't drink tap water) I kept my faith in GOD & never gave up.& GOD has blessed me & my kids so abundantly I am so grateful eternally grateful! & since I been blessed I have helped others & I love it! It feels so good to give someone a little relief. Cos I know how it feels. Pray to GOD have faith,believe & don't doubt! He WILL bless you! No body on this site will. I know I tried.all they do is refer you to agencies. No one pulls a dollar out of their pocket. GOD Bless all of you.
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808Hawaii
Don't know what state you are in but going to your community church and talking to the head person there may be able to get you on the right path. Also church members are really awsome people willing to help someone as much as they can. Right now don't ever go back to an abusive situation, you need resources at this time that will help you in a safe way. Hope your situation gets better.
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kiresten8
To SINGLE MOM, if your baby dad have money why don't you take him to court for child support. Something don't make sense with your story sorry.
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kiresten8
Single mom, I think you should Go to a shelter for women that's your best hope. Because honestly it's bad for everyone
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